Month: December 2016

SUNDAY 106

Place: Home
Time: 16:40

Eventful week.

Ups and downs in our budding relationship this week. Mostly my fault. My speech had become very caustic off late. Me being harsh is not going to remove all the faults and shortcomings. The problem is with how she takes my statements. Anything I say that is slightly hard causes her to tear up. That seems to make me even more angry.

I have decided to control my tongue and not say anything going forward whenever I am annoyed by the Mrs. That should help out considerably. ¬†We had a couple of days of privacy these last couple of days. We went to Bala’s place yesterday for a party which Mr. Chick gave. It was very late by the time the party was over so we slept there and coming home in the morning. Went to Dangal movie yesterday. Was good.

Decided to build up our savings in a dormant HDFC account that the Mrs has. Planning to do an initial deposit of 1L and then transfer the monthly savings from March after all the expenses are settled. We have discussed about the need to build up a fund of about 5L and the Mrs agrees. I also told her that I am planning to give 1.5L for Suchi’s marriage and thankfully she was fine with it.

This weeks expenses:

Washing Machine cover and Power Bank –> The cover was required as the washing machine looked quite bare. Power Bank was required because there are frequent power cuts here.

Movie and Lunch outside — 1000

 

 

 

SUNDAY 105

Place: Home
Time: 12:12

I have stopped the weekly count now. Although we have not managed to do the deed, we are pretty much there and getting over the line might require some medical help.

The last 2 Sunday posts have been somewhat bereft of content. That is not because of a lack of anything going on in my life. Quite the contrary to be frank. Its just that when I started this series, I wanted to write about what I tasks I achieved during the course of the week on every Sunday. For the last couple of years, the marriage has been the central theme to this post. Most of the content that I have written have more of less revolved around marriage. Now that the marriage is over, I need to rethink what the content of this series should be.

I think the format in itself is very good and it deserves to be continued. The content will include the life of 2 people instead of one as has been the case till now.

Came back from the HM yesterday night. It was a very good experience overall. I felt that we were a little short of time. 3 nights over there was always going to be quite hectic. And it turned out to be so. Nevertheless both of us had quite a lot of fun and have grown closer together because of the experiences that we have shared.

We had a lot of good conversations together and have come to know each other better now. The past few weeks have been a learning experience for me. I have come to know myself better and given the fact that my words and actions now impact 2 lives instead of just one, there are things that I need to change in myself. I definitely need to become more patient and stop trying to have a control on all issues. I need to start giving the benefit of the doubt to the Mrs on most matters.

We have decided to create a pool of 5 lakhs. I will need another 1.5L for Suchi’s marriage so that is a total of 6.5 lakhs. My target is to create the surplus by the end of 2017. There are going to be no money transactions between me and dad going forward. He will give me the land money as and when it arrives. We have spoken about this and have decided to minimize our expenses till we create the 5L pool.

I want this to be the central theme of these Sunday posts going forward. I will report in the Sunday post what my expenses for the week were, what was a good investment and what was a bad investment. I want every rupee I spent to be weighed for pros and cons and I don’t want to take any rash decisions.

That along with regular updates on both our fitness and work should keep this Sunday thing going for another 100 posts.

Tasks for the week:

Get credit card money from the guy, close bank accounts, work on getting address proof — Swathi
Look for beds to buy, figure out mattress problem – Sridhar

SUNDAY 104

Place: Home
Time: 09:15
Week 60

Had a big fight with madam yesterday. Mostly my fault. I said something out of spite. She started crying. I got even more angry. For some reason I took it as a challenge for my ego and then behaved quite nastily. I don’t know why I did that. I will need to be careful about my behavior going forward.

Lots of changes in the office. Firstly, I got a raise of 90K effective this month. No promotion though. I think the next year, Oracle will give me a promotion without any hike going by what they did this year. Baiju, Rupak and Vijay were made PSE’s. I will need to start preparing for a shift now given that there is no SSC work for me going forward.

There is a Dell onsite project that started last week. I was onsite in Dell for a couple of days this week. Doesn’t look like a very difficult assignment. I think I am going to have a lot of time on my hands in the coming few weeks. Need to make the most of it.

Will go out to buy electronic goods today. My budget for a fridge and washing machine is about 35K. The total house budget is 75K. We will look to buy the rest of the stuff next week. We had looked for homes in AECS layout and had decided to finalize that one. On monday I rode to office on my bike and on the way back got an idea about the travel time. Kadugodi would take me about 20 mins more than AECS layout. So I thought long and hard about spending about 1L on new house when the total travel time was going to be an extra 1 hour for me. Decided to go with the existing place for the time being.

In laws will probably leave the coming week or the week after. Then we will be able to settle down a little and get ourselves settled.

 

 

 

SUNDAY 103

Place: Atta’s Place, Kadugodi
Time: 07:07
Week 59

So the marriage is done.

It was hectic and tiring yet enjoyable at the same time. During the past week, I have slept as much on the road as I have on a stationary bed. All the travelling is over now though.

I want to move into a flat as soon as possible. Given that the Mrs. does not want to move away from her mom’s place, she is not showing a lot of enthusiasm. This is something that will require a bit of a push. Saw a place yesterday that I thought was good. Need to show it to the Mrs. today and confirm it. The travel to the office from there is going to be a pain. But I expect to survive somehow.

Most of the pending accounts have been cleared. The total expense of the marriage including the initial expenses came to around 7 Lakhs.

The SSC work has completely moved out. I am not sure what I should do tomorrow. I will start to office at lunch time and will have a chat with Chaman regarding what he wants me to do. Oracle gave me a 10% hike btw. Better than nothing.

Given that I have started a family now and there are 2 of us to manage, I have to be very careful and sensitive when it comes to managing expenses. Had a mini fight with the Mrs. yesterday regarding her credit card bill. I will need to ignore her expenses at least for the coming couple of months and let her manage her own stuff. Me demanding accountability one week after marriage will make her feel like I am dominating her.