We live in difficult times, we see turbulence all around and our lives go up and down all the time. Is it because the world around us has got ever so faster at change or is it because of the phase of life I am in that it feels that way? Probably a combination of both.
I have been trying to write something like this for the last 1 year. I started a couple of times and then abandoned it for various reasons. This time, I am determined to go through with it. Today I want to write about 5 men. Three of them are very good friends of mine. One is a self centered attention seeking bitch and the last is a troubled guy who has been included here just for that reason.
The first time I heard about Mr. B was around 10 years ago. I was in Gowtham at the time and he was one of the toppers in the class. He looked like a small boy then. He had great skills at Maths and Physics and he built a reputation around it. I never interacted with him at the time. In fact, we were mere acquaintances for most of these past 10 years. It was only after I came to Bangalore in June 2014 that I got to know him personally.
He is brilliant at work and has good social skills. He is a romantic deep down and has a way with woman. He is bad at organizing things and his stuff is generally a pile of mess. He is a caring and considerate guy and a good friend.
2015 has been a roller-coaster ride for Mr. B. The highlights are the 3 international trips that he made during the year. He has a passion for travel and has visited Malaysia, Cambodia and Spain this year. It all seemed to be going well for him when he found a girl that he thought he could marry and settle down with. They were to be engaged on the 17th of Dec.. on my birthday.
Turns out, the woman is a spoiled brat who is used to having her way and has very little consideration for others. She gave Mr. B a sneak preview of sorts of how it would me like if he married her. He got shit scared and wanted get out of it.
Shit happens. Many a times it happens because of our own doing. Sometimes, bad stuff happens to us even if we are not at fault, and have taken every precaution to prevent such a event. I put myself in Mr. B’s shoes and think about what I would have done differently. He got clues along the way about the woman’s behavior but he never took them seriously. Nobody is perfect right..
He wanted to marry a woman who he could understand and get along with, not someone who his parents showed to him. I would want to do the same. The trouble with that is there is no way you can figure out a person by speaking to them for a few hours or even a few days. It takes time, as it did in Mr. B’s case. Luckily for him, he realized what he was getting into before his marriage.
So did he break it off? No he didn’t. He reasoned.. better a known devil than an unknown angel. He got support from his Mother in law and he decided to go ahead with the marriage. Let’s see how it goes.
Mr. M and I met in 2007 and we became good friends in 2008. We, along with Mr. PRS would always be on the same wavelength those days and we have had some great conversations over the past few years. The Goa trip that Mr. M, Mr. PRS and I did in 2012 was one of the most memorable trips of my life. I have missed him since he has moved to the U.S
Mr. M and I have had our differences on how we handled our lives. He did not like it that I would always be organized and that I liked to follow a routine. He believed that routine brought stagnation to one’s life. I did not like the way he treated women when we were in college. Both of us have followed our paths and have struggled in life.
2015 has been a difficult year for Mr.M. The fact that his girlfriend managed to get into a college but he only got an admit to a shitty college put a lot of stress on him. He struggled to handle the rejects that he got from all the other universities. He did not want to go to that university, but he did not want to stay back either. In the end he did get onto U.S soil and has been spending his time there, even though he does not like it.
The one good thing in Mr. M life is that he has a settled, mature relationship going on with a nice woman for the last 3 years. I don’t know if they will end of staying together but I hope they do.
I have known Mr UB for 8 years now. He was my backie in my third year. Another brilliant but messy guy.
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